Culture Making| Week 4 - The Nuclear Family

Flourishing family cultures structure space and time. Families that are faithful to the way of Christ are expanding families that open up to the family of God, to the lost, to the least.

This Week's Action Step: 

List the things you do as a family and how much time you spend doing them.                  Ask, "What are the things we're doing doing to us?"

Small Group

Small Group Questions:

  1. What specific things have made creating a flourishing, Christ-following culture in your family difficult?
  2. Regardless your thoughts on whether males are meant to be the spiritual leaders of families, why is it important that both spouses be engaged, intentional, and assertive in creating healthy family cultures?
  3. Discuss this quote: “Your greatest contribution to the kingdom of God may not be something you do, but someone you raise.”
  4. I suggested that we’ve tended to think of family discipleship primarily in terms of teaching our children to think the right things as opposed to creating healthy rituals and rhythms for our families.
  5. Along those lines, I said “Telling our children their faith is really important won’t do them any good so long as their athletic, educational, or social accomplishments function as the center of gravity for our family’s life.” Agree or disagree?
  6. How can you structure your family’s space around creativity instead of consumption, around engagement instead of distraction?
  7. “Find the room where your family spends the most time and ruthlessly eliminate things that ask little of you and develop little in you.”
  8. Does your family have a rhythm of work and rest or toil and leisure?
  9. I talked about the idolatry of the family: We tell ourselves that our immediate family is really our only priority; that we don’t really owe anything to anybody else; that we don’t really have any other relational responsibilities. And tragically enough, this obsessive focus on the immediate family has often created toxic cultures in our families, shutting them up in suffocating environments where an unbearable weight is placed on our immediate family.
  10. Are their ways you’ve fallen into the idolatry of the family?
  11. How can you cultivate a family culture that is close but also open?

Songs from Today

  • The Lion And The Lamb by Brenton Brown, Brian Johnson, and Leeland Mooring 

  • Spirit Of The Lord

  • Death Arrested by Adam Kersh, Brandon Coker, Heath Balltzglier, and Paul Taylor

  • Living Hope by Brian Johnson and Phil Wickham

  • Build My Life by Brett Younker, Karl Martin, Kirby Kable, Matt Redman, and Pat Barrett

  • Doxology by David Crowder and Thomas Ken